Why Counselling?

Being a therapist myself, I too recognise the importance of therapy and how it can positively influence my life. For those who are curious, I thought I would share some personal insights into why I choose to have counselling and why I value it.

Therapy is by no means for the “weak”. It is for those who want to conquer their own personal challenges and succeed at life; a life where you can confidently express yourself and be content in your own skin.

Therapy is for the courageous. It is for those who realise that talking and exploring the unknown will open yourself up to discover parts of you that you may have never have got to realise or appreciate. For myself, making connections with my past and present is almost like a reawakening, where you can let go of the old and come into your own.

Therapy is more than just talking to a friend, you are talking with a professional who is trained to hold you within a space, to really hear you and to be 100 percent present with you as they walk besides you on your personal journey of discovery.

On a side note, I remember I started seeing a therapist post yachting and she was concerned that I didn’t have any roots in a particular geographic location. Living in so many different countries and my love for travel, it was hard to commit to the idea. I was intentionally living a minimalistic life so that I could pick up things and leave when
I needed and not be tied down by an accumulation of ‘stuff’. My therapist told me to go buy something to start the nesting process… long story short instead of buying furniture I bought a Le Creuset pot, literally the heaviest pot ever!!! I thought I would purchase something that was somewhat practical or maybe I was resistant to being told what I should do 🙂 8 years on, I have lived in two different states and realised I don’t need things to call my new city home.

P.S. Tip – Therapists are not there to tell you what to do, that’s a definite no-no, therapists are there to guide and support you in making a decision that is right for you.

I know I am not perfect, I see life as a big school where I can learn to grow and challenge myself on a daily basis. Therapy encourages me to grow as a person and supports me in reaching new heights in my personal and professional life as I learn to accept the parts of myself that I have neglected or failed to love and discover my strengths and weaknesses that I may have not discovered on my own.

So yes, therapy comes down to strength. Strength to recognise that it is ok to ask for help and the strength to acknowledge that you need support. We are not super human it is not easy to manage all components that make up our lives, whether it be intimate relationships, friendships, career, spirituality, finance, family … you get my point 🙂

Counselling is not just for those who are struggling to manage life’s challenges… Counselling is about maintaining well-being and keeping your emotional hygiene in check. According to the World Health Organisation “Mental health is defined as a state of well-being in which every individual realizes his or her own potential, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to her or his community”

This definition really encapsulates how difficult it is to achieve optimal mental health on a daily basis. Mental health issues are on the rise and I wonder if it is because we are not talking enough? I encourage you to define mental health in your own words and ask yourself what are you doing to prioritise you and your mental health?